Being Alone

 
Being Alone...Spending Time with Ourselves and Removing the Distractions so that We Can Hear Our Own Inner Voice - or the Transcendent Voice of God

I’d like you to think of a time in your life when you were alone. Maybe you were away on a trip, or out for a walk, or simply at home by yourself. What was it like to be alone? What did you think about? Did you try to fill the space with distractions to make up for the solitude. 

I have a feeling that most of us don’t like being alone. I’m not talking about being lonely – I am talking about spending time with ourselves and removing the distractions which fill our lives with noise so that we cannot hear our own inner voice – or the transcendent voice of God.

The truth is, Judaism is not a religion which emphasizes solitude. We traditionally begin and end our day in a minyan with others. 

As Parshat Vayetze opens, Jacob flees from his father’s camp. For the first time in his life, he is alone.

Jacob grew up surrounded by people. As a homebody he rarely left his mother’s side. Living in a tribal encampment there were always people around. Even when he rose in the middle of the night, he was aware of the people sleeping in the tents around him. Privacy was unheard of in a tribal enclave.

Now, standing on alone somewhere between the only home he had ever known and his uncle Laban’s homestead in Haran, Jacob hoped that someone, even a stranger would pass by. He remembered the story of the angelic strangers who visited Abraham before his father was born. Where were they now? Jacob was not only alone but he was lonely and scared.

In his alone-ness, Jacob encounters God. Lying down to sleep, he dreams of a sulam, a ladder that reaches to heaven. And there he encounters God, who reassures him, “I am with you and will bring you back to this land…” In the morning Jacob awakes with a start, “Surely God is in this place and I did not know!”

It is in the wilderness that our forefather learns to listen to his own inner voice and to discern the presence of God in his life. These encounters teach him that solitude is a necessary part of our spiritual development.

Solitude is not unique to Jacob. Moses encounters God in the wilderness when he comes upon the burning bush. Jonah discovers God from the belly of a fish and prays. And Elijah hears the still small voice of God while hiding in a cave in the desert. Each one returns from solitude with a new sense of mission and purpose. Each gains a deeper understanding of his self.

We live in a world where we now depend on solitude. Yes, we can reach out and make calls and see each other over zoom but it is certainly not the same as seeing people panim el panim and being able to touch them. Television and internet are our meeting places. We can always find to do so that we are never spiritually alone. I pray that during the day of Thanksgiving which we celebrate this week; that as we notice all that we are grateful for, we try to find space for ourselves. This has been an extraordinarily challenging year, may we see in the challenges that God, was always by our side.

 

Blessings – Where do blessings come from? Where do they go? What is their source of power? What is their effect?

 
Where do blessings come from? Where do they go? What is their source of power? What is their effect?

While our tradition mandates that we pronounce blessings of all kinds and for all kinds of reasons, the blessings that we utter, as we bless God, invariably begin “Barukh attah Adonai… – You, Eternal God, abound in blessing.” Thus, the blessings originated by our tradition proclaim God to be the origin of blessing. And we pray incessantly that we, or the ones we love or the land, may be blessed.

Isaac, our second Patriarch, is, indeed, recognized as someone blessed by God- in spite of his lackluster character. The locals, after concluding a peace covenant with Isaac, proclaim: “You are now the blessed one of the Eternal.” (Gen. 26:29) But is Isaac’s status – as someone blessed by God – simply being acknowledged, or is Isaac’s status achieved by means of concluding a peace treaty with his neighbors? Does God’s blessing flow from above or because of human efforts?

The same ambiguity hovers over the drama of the blessing bestowed, not upon Isaac, but by Isaac. We become aware of the question when we compare the ways Isaac and Rebecca speak about blessing. Isaac tells his beloved son, Esau, to prepare a tasty meal for his aged father “so that my soul shall bless you before I die.” (Gen. 27:4) But when Rebecca relates this statement to her son, Jacob, she phrases it this way: “Look, I heard your father speaking with your brother, Esau, saying, ‘Bring me some hunted catch and make some treats for me and I will eat and bless you before the Eternal, before I die.’” (v.v. 6-7) Rebecca adds to Isaac’s words the missing mention of God’s Presence.

Yet, Isaac certainly recognizes that God, and not (only) Isaac’s own soul, showers blessings. When his son (imagined by Isaac to be Esau), covered with his best hunting gear and animal skins, draws near to kiss his father, Isaac “inhaled the smell of his garments and blessed him, and he said: ‘See, my son’s fragrance is like the fragrance of the field, that the Eternal has blessed.’” (v. 27)

The senses melt together as in a dream. What did Isaac, blind in his old age, smell and then “see?” Did Isaac mean to say that God had blessed the field, or that God had blessed his fragrant son? Perhaps he was convinced that his son was already blessed because he “saw” his son surrounded by the open field, standing in the midst of God’s showering of blessings. “And Isaac went out to meditate in the field.” (Gen. 24:63) Did he see himself, and all of us together, in a field, just like Esau, under a blessing-shower raining down upon us continually? Perhaps, thought Isaac, it is because we are constantly soaking up God’s blessing into ourselves that we are able to send forth blessings from out of ourselves. What was his own soul’s blessing but a natural outcome of our naturally blessed state, unforced and innocent?

This must have been Isaac’s dream. For surely, like Abraham before him and Jacob after him, surely Isaac also dreamed. But the desperate cry of his son, Esau, shattered that dream. Esau’s cry was not for a blessing of the already blessed, but for a blessing for the not yet blessed. It is one of the most tragic scenes in the Torah. The birthright has been given to Jacob, the younger son. Esau comes in from hunting and preparing his father’s favorite dish. His father understands that he whether intentionally or not, he had given the blessing to his other son and tells Esau that the blessing is done. Esau cries out what is left for me. We can feel his pain. Isaac makes up a blessing on the spot to heal the soul of his shattered son. We each deserve blessings and many of us can feel and see them acutely. It is my prayer that we learn to bring blessings to each other through our words and our actions.

Scholarship for Summer Camps

Planning for Summer Camp 2021

If you have a student(s) in our Temple's Religious School and are interested in applying for a Summer Camp Scholarship, your child needs to write a letter to Rabbi Renee about the program they are interested in attending and why they want to go.

Here is information from Jewish Federation about summer camp.

1. One Happy Camper Incentive Grant - Eligible new campers can get grants to attend 175+ awesome overnight camps AND teen travel programs.
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2. Rocker Family Scholarship - Qualified Families can get funding for up to three summers, plus duffel filled with camp supplies for first-time campers.
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Get Your FREE Summer consultation!  The Jewish Federation's camp experts Tracy Levine or Gerri Russo are here to help. Please call (973) 929-2972 or Jewish Federation's website

Springfield’s Interfaith Clergy Association’s Annual Thanksgiving Service

Save the Date: November 23rd

Please join Springfield's Interfaith Clergy Association for their Annual Thanksgiving Service on Monday, November 23rd @ 7pm.

The Service will be hosted by First Presbyterian Church of Springfield and live streamed via YouTube Live.

LiveStream Link - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCN3n65duhcqjw2zbKBSM6TQ

Donations Requested to Benefit the Springfield First Aid Rescue Squad & the NJ Food Bank.

Monetary donations will be accepted.

 

Modern Talmudic Stories with Rabbi Renee


Modern Talmudic stories & what they teach us about life.

October 29 Talmudic Folktales:
https://shaarey.org/talmudicfolktales/

November 5 Rabbi Akiva and the Gift:
https://shaarey.org/rabbiakivaandthegiftnumber/

November 12 Return:
https://shaarey.org/return/

November 19 Rabbi Meir and Bruria:
https://shaarey.org/rabbimeirandbrirah/

December 3 Animals As Scholars:
https://shaarey.org/animalsasscholars/

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/4523093548?pwd=N2hzSnpUeXk5ek5YOHBKZG1uY2lLZz09

Meeting ID: 452 309 3548
Passcode: Torah

Keshet Dates

Keshet Dates Starting October 20th!
Tuesday Evenings 5pm-6pm

 

Celebrate Sukkot with Rabbi Renee


Come and schmooze with the Rabbi!

Join Rabbi Renee in the Temple Parking Lot on Tuesday, October 6th (10am-1pm) or Wednesday, October 7th (4pm-6pm) to Celebrate Sukkot!

Please send an email to the office at scroll@shaarey.org to make an appointment.

Playground Brick Pickup

Playground Brick PickupPlayground Brick Pickup by October 15th

If you have a playground brick, please make arrangements to pick up your playground brick(s) by October 15, 2020.
 
The bricks have been removed from their original spot and now can be found lined up on the sidewalk across the driveway to the trash dumpster.
 
If you see a brick from someone you know, please call them to let them know they are available or offer to pick it up for them.
 
We would appreciate a call 908-233-8773 or an e-mail dayletreece@gmail.com letting us know which bricks you have picked up.
 
Please let us know if you can't get by there by October 15th because the leftover bricks will unfortunately have to be discarded.

 

Yom Kippur Services


Temple Sha'arey Shalom Yom Kippur Services

Sunday, September 27
Kol Nidre 7:30 pm

Monday, September 28
Yom Kippur Morning 10:00 am

Musical Interlude 12:30 pm

Seminar: Rabbi Renee Edelman 1:30 pm "Surviving a monsoon in a Life Raft: Jewish texts to help us Survive challenges"

Seminar: Cantor Jason Rosenman 2:30 pm "How the Melodies of the High Holy Days Touch our Soul"

Intergenerational Family Service 3:00 pm Children from birth to age 7 with their families

Afternoon Service 4:00 pm

Yizkor - Neilah 5:15 pm - http://shaarey.org/yizkorbooklet2020/

Religious School Update

Sha'arey Shalom is please to announce that we will now be offering FREE Religious School & in house tutoring to all Temple Members with a paid Temple Membership.

From Larry Lerner, Chairman of Temple Sha'arey Shalom Finance Committee: The budget is an outline of probable expenses and income for the next year. On the income side of the budget, the dues to be received is merely an estimate, and can be revised as the year progresses. Certainly the expected revenue from funds raised or gifts received are merely guesstimates and the Temple is guided in its expenses by the expected revenues. If the expenses vary for any reason, the Finance committee follows the expenses at any time and compares them to variations in income. The Finance committee reviews changes to actual income and expenses on a monthly basis.

Thus, if the dues structure has to be changed to meet competition the Board of the Temple does not have to adopt a new budget each month because of changes.

Finally, this is an unusual year with the sale of the Temple building, and it is to be expected that the budget must be looked at each month to determine how the adopted budget is following the actual income and expenses.

If you have other questions, you can direct them to either Edie as President or to me as Chairman of the Finance Committee. We welcome the inquiries and will answer your questions as soon as possible.

 

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